"Dan rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap mereka berdua dengan penuh kesayangan dan ucapkanlah: "Wahai Tuhanku, kasihilah mereka keduanya, sebagaimana mereka berdua telah mendidik aku waktu kecil"."
The words rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap mereka berdua dengan penuh kasih sayang dalam petikan ayat diatas show to us on how Allah do urge His servants to respect and and to honor their parents. To those who are still single, they should love their parents after Allah and Rasulullah, and for the ladies that already fulfilled half of their deen, they should love their parents after Allah, Rasulullah and a man called a husband.
I still remember when I read about one welfare association that requested for people contributions in order to support their homes for those old folks, one thing that automatically comes across my mind was how could their children sent them to this homes and then just leave them without any single word. Actually, I'm not saying all those people that sending their parents to the old folks homes are bad, since there are the cases where the parents are actually want their children to send them there because of loneliness, and their children do regularly visit them.
There must be a reason why their children sent them to the homes. Somehow, I do agree with this statement after reading numbers of current news regarding the cruelty towards own children nowadays. However, back to the basic, the persons called parents are also human. As I always mentioned before, doing mistakes are part of being human. And as a child, we need to set up our mind that we're being raised up by humans, not angels. And of course, they cannot avoid themselves from doing something that we may think as wrong, but in Islam, there's a way we can try to advice and talk to them so they can realize about their mistakes.
I still remember when I was travelling with a friend of mine to Kuala Lumpur for an Oil & Gas occasion few months ago, and I was quite impressed with the way he/she talked to his/her mom. It also makes me realized that to start or to create a sweet moment or conversation, somehow we as the children need to start it first. Maybe some people might say it's easy to say rather to be done, but in order to get something, we need to start something. Sometimes, words can make a huge changes. And I cannot avoid myself to admit that his/her way somehow really makes me think that part of Boyzone's song entitle "Words" do works well.
"It's only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away."
I still remember during my adolescent times, somehow I do find it's hard to talk to my dad. Even until today, I cannot avoid the fact that I still cannot share everything with him as I did share everything with my mom. Plus, my dad is kind of person that cannot hear his daughter's cry, or else his voice will change into kind of nervous tone. During my second year, it was after I finished my Probability & Statistics paper where I immediately cried once I get out from the exam hall since I cannot answer almost all the questions. What I did was I tried to call my mom who was performing her Hajj that time, but I cannot reach her. Then, I tried to call my dad, and when he heard my crying voice, he suddenly sound nervous. Few seconds later, I received a call from my mom, and I was kind of surprised when my mom said, "I really thought it's about serious matter. You know what, your daddy came to me with vim and vigour since he really thought that something worst had happened."
And her statement somehow strike my heart, since I was totally touched that time. And from that moment, I do realize that a father's heart is very soft, and he do loves us in their own way. It's just a natural nature of a man, who prefer to hide their true feeling as compared to a woman who prefer to show their feeling most of the times. Understanding the basic nature of a man and a woman somehow very important for us, who gonna enter the world called adults soon, since we cannot deny the fact that as our parents grow older, they will become more sensitive, more or less likely the toddler does.
Hope this Ramadhan will change us to be a better child, since there is a hadith in Riwayat Baihaqi saying that,
"Sesiapa yang memancing kemarahan ibu bapanya bererti dia memancing kemurkaan Allah dan sesiapa yang menyukakan hati ibu bapanya bererti dia membuat Allah redha kepadanya."
Somehow, this hadith indirectly told us that our ibadah can be nothing if we're disobedient towards our parents in all kind of things except for tauhid & akidah matter. Lets this Ramadhan be a starting platform for us to be more faithful towards our parents, since without them, we're not who we are today. They might did something that is totally wrong, but we need to bear in our mind that, our parents are human, and we're being raised up by those who have the same nature with us.
Love Allah, love Rasulullah and love our parents. Brings our heart home :)
~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~