Thursday, September 23, 2010

How Do You React?

The MSDS training was successfully done yesterday and I was invited by my Supervisor to attend the Health, Safety, Security and Environment (HSSE) Committee meeting today. And I do believe everyone can guess what does this meeting all about.

The 90/10 Principle

After I've undergo this industrial training for almost four months, I do admit that I've become more outspoken and able to express my feeling or opinion with regards to any matters that arise during any meeting or training. I do believe that there is no right and wrong opinions, it just either it is practicable and applicable to everyone or not. And I still can clearly remember about one thing that my lecturer have mentioned during our PCS class last semester, "Sometimes, we are behaving too Malaysian or too Asean. Whenever we want to say something that is right, but it may hurt others, we do say sorry at the first time before we mention about that particular matter. You don't have to bother yourself about it because whatever is right, then it's right, and whatever that is wrong, then it's wrong". And yes, I strongly agreed with her opinion because I can see that most people are afraid to move on or in the other words, most people are afraid to receive any new opinions or suggestions from new staffs as well as trainees.

Yeah, maybe it sound too harsh but then, it is! I always keep on reminding myself that truth is always hurt and whatever it is, we must able to say the truth. Sometimes, whenever I choose to be silence and stop myself from voice out my view, I can feel that this undefined feeling will always keep on disturb me. In some cases, it keep on bothering me until the next day and it indirectly effect my mood on the next day. That is why, after I attended numbers of training and meeting, I will always try to voice out my opinions no matter the meeting involves the managers or not. And, of course, I need to be prepared mentally and emotionally to receive any types of feedback after that.

I would like to share with you about the 90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey. He said that 90% of the things happen around us is determine on how we react towards it and only 10% of our life is made up of what happens to us. Yeah, in some situations, I strongly agree with him! You know why? Let me share with you a story...
You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just happened. Isn't it?

You curse her. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.

And of course, a short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Can you see why all these happened? Is it because of the spilled coffee? Is it because of your daughter? The answer is NO! It is because how you reacted in the morning!

The way we react towards something will determine how's the next thing will happen. That is why, whenever someone criticize you, say something that you might don't feel comfortable about, we have to think carefully on how we should react towards it.

Whatever it is, the way we react somehow will reflects the level of our mindsetting, our brain and the standard of our thinking. We might not realize about this, but people around us will somehow judge us through the way we react. That is why, some people do judge a book by its cover~! Remember, the outer part is the reflection of the inner. If someone is good inside, is there any point for him or her to look bad outside? Yeah, this question might not applicable all the times, but I believe it is perfectly right for most of the times.

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

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