Love In a Headscarf [Part 2] ~

"I loved looking beautiful: all women do, it is part of being a woman. But in public I wore the headscarf and more modest clothing because I did not want my looks to be what defined me."

[pg 129]

"Human beings were made up of all the same qualities, we just needed to uncover them and develop them in ourselves in order to become better individuals and get closer to the Divine."

[pg 130]

"Khadijah was a woman who found a man she believed would make her ideal partner...But instead of waiting the man to propose, Khadijah took the first step to approach this potential husband and sent a proposal to him herself through an envoy. This is hailed as very liberated and empowered by many Muslim men and women. I agreed with them, but I found myself asking, if this is such a wonderful thing for a Muslim women to do, why it is considered so shameful for the girl's family to approach the boy's family to talk about marriage?"

[pg 133] 

"By introducing modest behaviour and clothing into the public space, the aim was to make life easier, less tense and less judgemental for everyone. If I wanted to make society a happier place to live, I was willing to spend a little more time and care on choosing my clothes and wearing headscarf. For me, it was a matter of faith and a contribution to making the community we live in better."

[pg 159]

"I explained that even though a woman may have taken the huge step to dress modestly and wear the headscarf, it didn't mean that she was perfect or pious in every, or even in any, way. She was just as human as everyone else."

[pg 167]

"Even if I am married, the love between a mother and a daughter will always be different from and irreplaceable by the love of a partner. As mother and daughter, we have shared a journey through the joys and pains of living in this world as women and sharing in the most intimate moments of our lives."

[pg 172]

"Ummah was the one of the fundamental concepts that Muslims believed in. It meant being part of a single nation of people who shared a sense of community and togetherness, wherever you were in this world. What we shared was a journey towards the Divine, and a desire to make the world a better place."

[pg 182]

"Many others who were born Muslims had not done so, and saw being Muslim only as part of their culture and heritage. We had chosen Islam because we felt it made us free as human beings. We had chosen Muslims, not blindly, but because to us it made sense." 

[pg 192]

"The two searches - for the love of a partner and for the love of the Sublime - these two loves ran intertwined. This is why romantic love seems so fulfilling to start with, because it reaches for another, deeper love. And that is why romantic love feels so empty as it runs its course unless it is replaced by a more profound long-lasting love. I wanted a soulmate who tapped into my spirit and through whom my soul would grow, would learn about Love, with capital L, and be part of that Love. I had sat through innumerable lectures and seminars at the mosque, as well as countless weddings where the theme was always about romantic human love being part of the love for the Creator..."

[pg 196] 

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Pendidikan~

Baru-baru ini, saya terbaca blog seorang bakal doktor yang bercita-cita untuk menjadi seorang guru tadika sahaja. Alasan? Ingin mendidik sendiri bakal zuriatnya di samping mahu menyediakan sendiri segala keperluan bakal suaminya biar dia sendiri tidak mempunyai sebarang calon buat masa ini. Oh, kita serupa. Hehe~ Dan saya sangat menggemari salah satu quotes di blognya, saat menanti adalah sebenarnya saat mencari. Tak apa, InsyaAllah dengan doa, segalanya berjalan lancar. Berusaha memperbaiki diri dari masa ke semasa, InsyaAllah Allah sedang mengaturkan jodoh kita dengan seseorang yang sama dengan kita. Bukan kah Allah sudah berjanji dalam Surah An-Nur ayat 26?

Selepas membaca blog bakal doktor tersebut, saya mula terfikir, dalam dunia yang serba mencabar sekarang, sangat perlu untuk semua bakal-bakal isteri dan bakal-bakal ibu mula memikirkan bagaimanakah acuan pendidikan yang bakal mereka berikan kepada zuriat mereka kelak. Saya akui, tuntutan kewangan juga adalah sesuatu yang amat penting dewasa ini, tetapi ini bukan bermakna kita boleh meremehkan soal pendidikan zuriat kita kelak. Bukan mudah untuk mendidik seorang manusia menjadi insan. Tersalah mendidik insan boleh menjadikan manusia itu "insane".

Malaysia juga baru-baru ini terlalu kerap dikejutkan dengan berita-berita yang melibatkan pembuangan bayi-bayi yang tidak berdosa hasil dari perhubungan yang berdosa. Di sini kita boleh lihat, akan kesan dan impak daripada kurangnya pendidikan dalam aspek rohani yang akhirnya menyebabkan remaja khususnya kaum hawa terlalu mudah memberi diri mereka kepada sang lelaki yang belum sah menjadi pasangan hidup mereka. Apabila sudah terlanjur, maka kebanyakan lelaki memilih untuk lepas tangan sementara si perempuan menderita seorang diri mengendong perut yang kian membesar dari hari ke hari seorang diri. Inilah hakikat hari ini, kesan daripada serangan pemikiran atau secara istilahnya ghazwul fikr yang semakin berjaya dan kian ketara kesannya di kalangan muda-mudi hari ini.

Sebagai seorang muslim yang juga saudara kepada muslim yang lain, sama-samalah kita selaku kaum hawa menjaga diri sebaik mungkin. Ketegasan seorang wanita itu adalah benteng negara dan agama, dan percayalah, andai kita mampu untuk menjaga diri sebaik mungkin, tiada siapa yang mampu untuk merampas atau menjatuhkan maruah diri kita melainkan kita sendiri yang menyerah diri.

Andai permulaan kepada masjid yang ingin dibina itu bermula dengan jalan yang halal, sudah pasti Allah akan menjanjikan pengakhiran yang terindah buat diri kita. Dan buat bakal-bakal isteri mahupun bakal ibu yang bakal menjadi golongan profesional dalam sesuatu bidang seperti perubatan, kejuruteraan, perakaunan dan banyak lagi, adalah menjadi satu keperluan untuk memikirkan bagaimanakah corak pendidikan terutamanya pendidikan secara tidak formal yang bakal diberikan buat bakal-bakal zuriat, kerana hampir keseluruhan personaliti diri seseorang individu yang sudah dewasa adalah tercorak dari hasil pendidikan yang diterimanya sejak kecil lagi.

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Tazkirah of the day: Bicara~

Credit to IluvIslam.com

Allah tidak menyukai ucapan buruk, (yang diucapkan) dengan terang kecuali oleh orang yang dianiaya. Allah adalah Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengetahui.

[4:148]

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Untukmu Mujahidah Sejati~

Saya baru sahaja selesai mendengar lagu ini setelah  berjaya mendapatkannya melalui bantuan seorang sahabat. Syukran jazilan.  This song is dedicated to all muslimah especially the sisters =)

Mujahidah sejati

Intan permata mutiara mahkota

Seindah pelangi di cakerawala

Menghiasi taman indahnya permai

Mujahidah sejati

Engkaulah serikandi pembela agama

Peribadi solehah hiasan diri

Subur dengan iman dan ketaqwaan

Mujahidah sejati akhirat utama

Kerana dunia bukan pilihannya

Mujahidah sejati hatinya berbeza

Kerana diasuh iman dan taqwa

Mujahidah sejati

Berbekal al-quran dan as-sunnah

Bersulam pengorbanan

Bisa menggegarkan isi dunia

Mujahidah sejati

Terus subur mekar mewangi

Seindah suria menerangi bumi

Harapan ummah yang abadi

Mujahidah sejati

Menyoroti langkah Khadijah

Aisyah Fatimah, menjadi muqarrabin

Bermujahadah, merebut cinta

Dan kasih Allah

Paras rupa bukannya ukuran

Nilainya sama di sisi Tuhan

Cuma ibadah yang membezakan

Wanita solehah di sisi Tuhan

Berhati-hatilah hasutan dunia

Kerana ia merbahaya

Jangan dibiarkan ia bertakhta

Dalam iringan dosa-dosa

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Final Return~

Alhamdulillah...

Segalanya berjalan lancar pada hari ini. Biarpun hati saya tercalit sedikit kegusaran memandangkan limpahan kerja yang tidak pernah habis, namun saya bersyukur kerana Allah selalu memudahkan segala urusan saya. Benarlah kata hikmah, serahkan segala urusan pada Allah, insyaAllah semuanya berjalan lancar. Menyerahkan di sini pastinya bukan bermaksud menyerahkan tanpa sebarang inisiatif ataupun usaha, tetapi tetap ada usaha yang pastinya diiringi dengan tawakal kepada Allah.

Sejujurnya saya mengakui, semakin bertambah bilangan semester, maka semakin beratlah juga tanggungjawab. Projects, assignments, labs, quizzes, tests dan banyak lagi perkara pastinya menuntut saya untuk memberikan mereka masa yang pastinya bukan sedikit. Apatah lagi, dengan tahap kesukaran yang semakin bertambah, maka semakin bertambahlah juga masa yang diambil untuk memahami sesuatu perkara.

Dan rentetan dari pertambahan masa ini, acapkali, tanpa disedari, semakin sedikit masa yang diperuntukkan untuk aktiviti lain, yang pastinya lebih utama dalam usaha untuk mengecapi kebahagiaan dan kesenangan yang bukan hanya berakhir di dunia, tetapi berterusan di syurga. Proses untuk meningkatkan fahaman Islam dalam diri tetap sama sekali tidak boleh diabaikan, biarpun tujuan utama diri menjejakkan kaki ke alam universiti adalah untuk menghabiskan pengajian yang pastinya akan dianugerahkan dengan segulung ijazah di akhirnya.

Proses pembaikan diri, terutamanya aspek rohani, adalah satu proses yang berterusan. Tiada guna andai pengajian selama bertahun-tahun disudahi dengan results yang cemerlang, tetapi akhlak dan segala amal tidak mencerminkan fikrah dan peribadi seorang Muslim sejati. Akibat daripada penekanan yang keterlaluan dalam bidang akademik dengan mengetepikan aspek-aspek rohani inilah, maka tidak hairanlah semakin banyak bilangan anggota masyarakat yang terjerumus dalam lembah yang hina, yang pastinya tersasar dari landasan sebenar Islam.

Adakalanya, kita akan terasa lemah, seolah-olah tidak mampu untuk meneruskan langkah disebabkan bebanan yang terlalu berat dalam aspek akademik ini. Tugasan yang perlu mengejar due date demi mengelakkan markah ditolak, revision perlu dilakukan secara constant agar kefahaman terhadap sesuatu subjek menjadi mantap dan banyak lagi perkara adakalanya menyebabkan kita selaku pelajar mempunyai tendency yang agak tinggi untuk mengabaikan aspek pengisian rohani, lantas meninggalkan tanggungjawab azali kita sebagai hamba Allah yakni beribadah kepada Allah dan menjadi khalifah di muka bumiNya ini.

Namun hakikatnya, kita perlu yakin dengan segala janji-janji Allah kepada hambaNya. Mungkin adakalanya kita akan diuji dengan keputusan yang kurang memuaskan, tetapi sebagai hamba-Nya, kita tidak mungkin menyedari hikmah yang tersembunyi di sebalik segala yang berlaku ke atas kita. Allah itu Maha Adil. Dia takkan pernah mempersiakan segala kebaikan dan amalan yang dilakukan oleh hambaNya yang beriman malahan bakal digantikan dengan sesuatu yang lebih baik, mungkin dengan sesuatu yang takkan pernah kita jangkakan.

Marilah kita merenung kembali segala janji-janji Allah dan semoga kita terus kuat dan istiqamah dalam perjalanan yang insyaAllah takkan pernah berhenti demi menggapai redha-Nya, serta demi mendapatkan pengakhiran terbaik yang abadi sebagaimana janji-Nya.

Karena itu hendaklah orang-orang yang menukar kehidupan dunia dengan kehidupan akhirat berperang di jalan Allah. Barang siapa yang berperang di jalan Allah, lalu gugur atau memperoleh kemenangan maka kelak akan Kami berikan kepadanya pahala yang besar.

[4:74]

Barang siapa yang mengerjakan amal-amal saleh, baik laki-laki maupun wanita sedang ia orang yang beriman, maka mereka itu masuk ke dalam surga dan mereka tidak dianiaya walau sedikit pun.

[4:124]

Dan orang-orang yang beriman, lelaki dan perempuan, sebahagian mereka (adalah) menjadi penolong bagi sebahagian yang lain. Mereka menyuruh (mengerjakan) yang makruf, mencegah dari yang mungkar, mendirikan sembahyang, menunaikan zakat, dan mereka taat kepada Allah dan Rasul-Nya. Mereka itu akan diberi rahmat oleh Allah; sesungguhnya Allah Maha Perkasa lagi Maha Bijaksana.

[9:71]

Sesungguhnya mereka yang beriman dan beramal saleh, tentulah Kami tidak akan menyia-nyiakan pahala orang-orang yang mengerjakan amalan (nya) dengan baik.

[18:30]

Jika kamu meminjamkan kepada Allah pinjaman yang baik, niscaya Allah melipat gandakan (pembalasannya) kepadamu dan mengampuni kamu. Dan Allah Maha Pembalas Jasa lagi Maha Penyantun.

[64:17]

Jika Allah menolong kamu, maka tak adalah orang yang dapat mengalahkan kamu; jika Allah membiarkan kamu (tidak memberi pertolongan), maka siapakah gerangan yang dapat menolong kamu (selain) dari Allah sesudah itu? Karena itu hendaklah kepada Allah saja orang-orang mukmin bertawakal.

[3:160]

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Poligami~

Memetik kata-kata seorang isteri komandan pasukan Hitler:

"Sesungguhnya sistem poligami merupakan salah satu faktor terbesar yang menumbang ke arah kejayaan dan kemenangan Muhammad saw. Untuk ini, setelah perang ini, aku tidak akan ragu-ragu untuk memujuk Fuhrer (nama jolokan Hitler) agar mewajibkan poligami kepada masyarakat Jerman untuk menggantikan jutaan lelaki yang menjadi jutaan korban perang"

Oh, saya terpaku membaca kata-kata ini dalam buku "Isteri dan Puteri Rasulullah saw" hasil tulisan Muhammad Mahdi al-Istambuli dan Musthafa Abu Nashr al-Syilby. Sungguh, apabila saya memikirkan bagaimana orang yang tidak mengamalkan fahaman Islam dapat melihat natijah di sebalik Islam membenarkan poligami, saya rasa malu, terhina.

Saya memang belum berkahwin, tetapi jika ditanya secara jujur mengenai poligami, sebetulnya saya akan menjawab saya tidak rela untuk dimadukan. Tetapi, setelah membaca buku ini, saya terasa bahawa pendirian saya sedikit sebanyak berubah, tetapi tidak bermakna apabila telah sampai masanya, saya rela.

Hanya mampu menarik nafas panjang, tidak tahu mahu memberi komen. Sekadar terpaku apabila terbaca petikan kata-kata di atas.

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~

Choosing the Desired Wife~

All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the Merciful, the Hearer of supplications, and peace and blessings upon our beloved and humble prophet Muhammad,and upon his family and companions.

When marriage is spoken of during these "modern" times, Muslims become horrified, conjuring images of an arranged marriage, trying to find that "perfect" companion, how much of a financial burden it will become, and so on. The reality is that Islam came to solve these problems, not exacerbate them, yet unfortunately we have integrated our local traditions and customs with Islam so that marriage has become a major concern for a man rather than a delightful experience.

When living in a free, perverted and corrupt Western society, the Muslim male youth finds many temptations and tests, as a result of mixing with females, which he must face and overcome. He must constantly resist these temptations, which are thrown at him in the streets, on the media, and at work. And so the wisdom of the Prophet (s.a.w) echoes on, when he said: "O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains the eyes from casting (evil glances), and preserves one from immorality..."

When seriously considering marriage, you must pose the question to yourself as to just what kind of wife you want, what her qualities should be in order to establish an Islamic and peaceful household, and how you will know who she is.

As Muslims, we believe that Allah wants the best for us, and that His Prophet (s.a.w) illustrated this through his own life. So note that by following the advise of our own Creator, and that of His beloved servant, we can only be successful.

WHO TO MARRY

Islam is clear on the kind of wife you should be seeking. The Prophet (s.a.w) said: "A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, may you be blessed." This specifically defines just what kind of a companion we are seeking, for if we marry her for anything other than her religious piety, our marriage is bound to fall into misery.

True, beauty and charm is hard to resist, yet beauty does not last forever and does not guarantee you her obedience and religiousness. Financial status is dynamic, and so is worldly status, yet religion strongly establishes a household, and it may be that through your intention of marrying her for her religion, the rest is given to you anyway. In another hadith, the Prophet (s.a.w) said: "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman."

 Imagine! Nothing in this world is as valuable as a pious woman! This point has been stressed many times by Rasulallah (s.a.w), who himself, when asked what three things he loved the most, mentioned a pious woman. Once the following ayah was revealed: "They who hoard up gold and silver and do not spend it in the way of Allah, unto them give tidings of a painful doom. On that day when it will (all) be heated in the fire of Jahannam, and their foreheads and flanks and their backs will be branded therewith (and it will be said to them): 'Here is what you hoarded for yourselves, now taste of what you used to hoard' "[al-Taubah: 34-35]. Umar (r.a.a) has been quoted to say that, when this ayah was revealed, he approached the Prophet (s.a.w), submitting that the ayah weighed heavily on the minds of the Sahaba. Rasulallah (s.a.w) replied that the best thing to be treasured is the devoted wife who causes pleasure when seen, obeys orders instantly and takes full care of herself and her husbands property when he is away.

Abu Bakr once asked Rasulallah (s.a.w) what was the best thing to be treasured, and he (s.a.w) replied: "the tongue in remembrance of Allah, the heart filled with thanks to Allah, and a pious wife who helps in virtuous deeds". Look at how valuable such a woman is in the sight of Allah! How can a man live unhappily with such a person.

QUALITIES OF THE PIOUS WOMAN

Alright, you say, you've convinced me, but what actually makes her a pious woman? The answer is simple: Allah himself has described those qualities most loved by Him in the Qur'an, and in the ahadith there are numerous accounts of the virtuous attributes of a pious woman.

The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative qualities. The following are some ayahs on the attributes of the wife you should be seeking, so note those fine and appreciative qualities.

"And women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity" [s.24;v.26]

"Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husbands) absence what Allah would have them guard" [s.4;v.34]

"It may be, if he divorced you (all), that Allah will give him in exchange consorts better than you, who submit (Muslims), who believe, who are devout, who turn to Allah in repentance, who worship (in humility), who travel (for faith) and fast..." [s.66;v.5].

And then, in surah Ahzab, is a full list of those qualities loved by Allah, qualities which by the way should be evident in both males and females. So, my dear brother, choose her for the following attributes:

-a Muslim woman

-a believing woman

-a devout woman

-a true woman

-a woman who is patient and constant

-a woman who humbles herself

-a woman who gives charity

-a woman who fasts and denies herself

-a woman who guards her chastity

-a woman who engages much in Allah's praise.

Among the four known perfect women was Maryam. She was loved by Allah because of her religious qualities: "O Maryam! Worship your Lord: prostrate yourself, and bow down (in prayer) with those who bow down" [s.3;v.43]. Another was the wife of Pharaoh: "And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh: behold she said: 'O my Lord, build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden' " [s.66;v.11].

The Prophet (s.a.w) loved his wives because of their religious qualities. Aisha once related the fine qualities of Zainab: "(Zainab) was the one who was somewhat equal in rank with me in the eyes of Allah's Messenger (s.a.w), and I have never seen a woman more advanced in religious piety than Zainab, more God-conscious, more truthful, more alive to the ties of blood, more generous and having more sense of self-sacrifice in practical life and having more charitable disposition and thus more closer to Allah, the Exalted, than her."

Ahh, you think, but you'll never find such a woman! Well, if that was true, Allah would not have described her in the first place, and furthermore those qualities were emanating from the women described above. Islam deals with reality, not fiction.

Sure, the perfect woman doesn't exist, yet "if you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good" [s.4;v.19].

Remember also that you are not perfect either.

KNOWING WHO SHE IS

To find that pious woman, there are two steps to be taken, and that firstone relies on your personal observation. In surah Nisaa, Allah asks the believing women that they should "lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments," and also that they "should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments" [s.24;v.31]. If you notice a woman acting modestly, being not too obvious through her actions (by lowering her voice when around men), one who attempts to hide her attractions (which includes her external beauty as well as her internal charms), then you know she has some of those precious qualities. When you see a woman unashamedly flirting, unconcerned about her revealing clothes, and freely converses with males- keep far, far away. I'm sure when you get married you want your wife to devote her love to you, not to twenty other "just good friends".

Through simple observation, you can get a glimpse of her nature; for example, the way she stands when conversing, how she maintains eye-contact, her clothes, where she spends her time etc. Look for her strong points, and don't stress on her weak ones.

Yet, after all this, we still have to come to the most important topic. You can look all you want at her, set a private investigator to track her movements, read her diaries (all of which I consider  extreme and unIslamic), yet, my dear brother, no-one knows her heart  and intentions, no-one knows whether she will turn sour or more religious, or whether you are suitable for each other, except for Allah.

TRUST IN ALLAH

We are choosing our wife for her permanent values; namely her religious devotions, moral integrity, character etc. But believe me, if we try ourselves to combine a marriage, we are almost sure to fail, because we have no knowledge.

Allah loves a servant when he puts his trust in Him. When we do so, it is illustrating how we rely upon Him for help, and proving our sincerity to Him, establishing that we recognise His infinite knowledge and wisdom.

Islam is likened to being as a house, and in my estimation nothing cements that house together as well as putting our trust in Allah.

It is related on the authority of Jabir ibn 'Abdullah that the Prophet (s.a.w) used to teach his companions to seek, through a special du'a (known as an istikharah), the guidance of Allah in all matters which affected them. Rasulallah (s.a.w) said: "When you are confused about what you should do in a certain situation, then pray two rak'at of nafl salaat and read the following du'a (du'a of istikharah)."

I am surprised at the criticisms thrown at this du'a, and of its negligence. We are humans, powerless in this sphere of life, knowledgeable only enough to survive. So why shouldn't we turn to Allah and seek His perfect help whenever we require it? Allah responds to the call of His servant when he asks for guidance, and we are after all seeking to do something in order to please Him.

Many wrong notions exist concerning istikharah. Many Muslims will pray, read the du'a, and run to bed expecting to see a dream showing them their future wife, what her favourite colour is, and some other weird fantasy. That is not the purpose of this salaat.

The results of an istikharah can take many forms. Basically, you go by your feelings, whether you now feel more favourable or not. Also, you may notice events have changed, either for or against you. Finally, as a wonderful gift from Allah, you may be blessed with a dream. Note that you must follow the results of an istikharah, because not doing so is tantamount to rejecting Allah's guidance once you've asked for it. Also, you should firstly clear your mind, not have your mind already decided, and then afterwards follow the results willingly.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once sent Zainab a proposal of marriage. She refused to accept the proposal straight away, expressing her intention to refer the matter to Allah: "I do not do anything until I solicit the will of my Lord." Allah, the Responsive, answered her plea for help and revealed an ayah approving of the marriage. We may seem shocked at her refusal to accept a proposal from what is the best husband any woman can have, yet she was just recognising that it is Allah who knows how successful such a marriage will be, and as a sign of appreciation, that reply is now preserved in our Holy Book: al Qur'an.

The Prophet (s.a.w) once said to Aisha: "I saw you in a dream for three nights when an angel brought you to me in a silk cloth and he said: 'Here is your wife', and when I removed (the cloth) from your face, lo, it was yourself, so I said: 'if this is from Allah, let Him carry it out' ".

Marriage is a serious step, and requires the right attitude. If marriage completes half our faith, shouldn't that half be the best half? A woman married for the wrong reasons can only weaken the Muslim household. Consider that she will be your life-long companion, the rearer of your children. Don't marry her for her worldly wealth, but for her wealth in Islamic wisdom and knowledge. Her status in this life is but illusionary, so choose her for her status in the sight of Allah. Beauty is but superficial, but the beauty of Iman is transcendent.

When asking Allah for a wife, call upon Him by His beautiful names, as He has commanded us: "For Allah are certain and dignified names: therefore call upon Him by them"[s.7;v.189]. Ask for a companion who is devout, pious, patient and so on. Be among those who say: "Our Lord, may our spouses and our offspring be a joy to our eyes and make us leaders of the righteous" [al-Furqan,74].

I cannot provide a better conclusion than saying that you must put your trust in Allah. You must have trust in His concern for us, and His ability to help us. Allah says: "Put your trust in Allah, for Allah loves those who put their trust in Him" [s.3;v.159].

May Allah help us in our sincere efforts in following His commandments and the way of His beloved servant, and provide us with wives whom He loves.

"When my servants ask you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I respond to the prayer of every supplicant when he calls on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to my call, and believe in Me: that they may walk in the right way"" [al-Baqarah,v.186].

By: IBRAHIM ABU KHALID

~berdoa dan terus mengharapkan redha Illahi...~